Sometimes I wish I could shake people into loving themselves. How many times have my friends, students and clients dropped their defenses – unlocked themselves to reveal that they are living in a previously unmentioned and undisclosed fear?
Fearful that there is secretly something so bad or so wrong with them that they will never find a home in someone else’s heart. Wanting and longing for deeper contact and connection. You are so lovable, more than lovable – but first you must learn to love yourself.
On the outside they will never know. Often so handsome, so pretty. Smiling and proper. So well-rehearsed. Hidden away in a very deep pocket filled with fears, insecurities, doubt and self-shame. Catching themselves staring at the clock far too often – a secret collector of minutes passing by. It’s bewildering how present the absence of joy and love can be when you allow it to control your life.
Sometimes you get lost trying to find yourself. As I often say, “it’s hard to see the picture when you’re the one in the frame.” While no one can truly save you but yourself it often helps if you will allow someone else to hold the mirror – so you can get a better view with a little distance, light and reflection. It’s okay to be vulnerable and ask for help. You don’t always have to try so hard to keep it together. Sometimes the best way to put yourself together is by allowing this version of you to fall apart. So many times I have seen that the pain that seems so real will soon be nothing other than a misunderstood dream of a time gone by – a fading memory.
When the chaos subsides and settles you will finally be able to smile back at the world with authenticity and genuineness. There will be no more monsters lurking in the shadows. You will no longer have to pay the price for abandoning what you were meant to do in this world. When you let it all go you will discover that there was nothing ever wrong with you – that nothing has ever happened that could ever truly scar or damage you.
You can remove the thorn and release the pain until there’s nothing left. You can become aware and no longer be imprisoned by your impulses. The road to healing begins with an intention. Happiness is based on believing in yourself once more and drawing on the well from within. Happiness is an internal choice, not a series of outer conditions. ❤️❤️❤️
Once you free your mind you will discover that we are all bathed in the same light, the same potential – just different reflections of the same loving eternity.
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