Truth Statements

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There is no going back once the lid on the box of deep personal insight has opened. Like a butterfly trying to return to its cocoon, a place that used to be all it knew, what was once warm and comforting, now seems small, toxic and claustrophobic.

 

Destructive habits, emotions and relationships operate, manifest, and thrive in the unconscious ecology of projective experience. Shining the light of awareness onto our destructive tendencies and taking responsibility is rewarding, and revealing but facing the truth of self-deception comes with a requisite amount of pain and resistance to change.

 

As painful as self-sabotaging behaviors can be, the allure of the known and familiar seems far too often to have an almost magnetic appeal.

 

Sometimes there is simply no happy medium, no way to have your cake and eat it too, meaning it is simply impossible to live having both the wisdom of introspection and the destructive relationship or habit. It’s going to simply be one or the other. One option is to return to the cocoon, to the familiar pain, and the other option is a vast space of endless possibility.

 

Don’t be afraid to step over the line, a demarcation, a personal rite of passage – to leave the destructive relationship, habit, and emotion once and for all. Cold turkey. This is called a moment of truth. We encourage our friends and clients to find a destructive tendency or even relationship and to make a truth statement.

 

A truth statement is a powerful intentional statement. A truth statement is a promise to never return to the former aspect of our lives that we unconsciously manifested. Never again.

 

An example of a truth statement is Gandhi’s or the the Dalai Lama’s truth statement of non-violence (ahimsa). Under no circumstance will I ever commit violence to another. Personal truth statements are very powerful – serious business; Not for the meek. When you gather your courage and fortitude, examine the destructive tendencies and relationships in your life. I urge you to make a few truth statements every year. Some relationships or tendencies simply are not manageable. They have to be severed and cut off. No looking back. Game over. When we can no longer bear the weight of our own justifications; when our rationalizations have become intolerable.

 

Life is in the present and ahead, so be brave and make the space, an allowance for personal transformation: “this time I’ll reenter into my life and world consciously, I’m done with the pain.”

Next act, next episode please. It’s time to move on now.

Facing Yourself

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One by one clients (soon to be friends) come into my space – lovely people, often hurt, scarred and wounded, but all of them, without exception are on a path to healing and self-discovery. In the beginning they point the finger of responsibility at their husbands, their wives, former lovers, their friends, co-workers and enemies. I’ll listen for awhile, gather the larger picture, and then pause the conversation.

 

From a childhood filled with hurt and anger I empathize. I’m all too familiar with blaming others and circumstances for my problems. It was a waste of energy then, and it would certainly be a waste of energy now – too conscious, too aware. Self-deception doesn’t last long these days. Like everyone, I’m fallible and human, prone to error and mistakes. I listen with this ear, with this understanding – that we are in process. We are unfolding and the pain that we experience is the medium that brings us to awareness.

 

We will never arrive at an understanding of ourselves by blaming another for our darkness. They may not be grateful, they may have lied, cheated, deceived and worse. They also are not likely willing to face themselves. No matter. If you want to grow, if you want to transform, with each instance of pain – look inward. Instead people unfortunately will do almost anything to avoid facing themselves, no matter how absurd. You must look into the darkness of your own attachments, ego-clinging, and fear in order to see the light.

 

I redirect every client, as I redirect myself, every time the finger pointing goes outward – bring it back. You alone are ultimately responsible for your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. You alone are responsible for your happiness. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, as your reality is a projection of your own. Inoculate yourself to the speech and actions of others by looking inward, and you will no longer be the victim of unnecessary suffering.

 

Looking inward is no easy task – you’re the one in the frame, so it’s hard to see the picture. Often people are so busy, that even if they have the tools, they don’t bother to utilize them. Lost in the hustle of their own busyness while their lives fall apart around them. Overwhelming at times. When you’re ready to slow down, when the blame game stops working, when you’re ready to face yourself, the good work that you’re here for, your own transformation, will begin again.

 

As always, if you need help in seeing yourself deeply, and have the courage to reach out, we’re here. Friends on the path.

What is Realization? 🙏

  

When students ask, “What does it mean to be realized?” The answer to this age old deeply introspective question is always the same – realization is the realization of anatta or “not-self.” 

You can try and unpeel as many layers of flesh and psyche as you wish – a self will never be found. There is only what we refer to as the nominal “I,” which is the name given (eg: Michael) to this changing mass of physicality, thoughts and emotions called yourself. 

This is of immense practical psychological and spiritual importance because it puts so much of suffering in perspective – without an inherently existent “I,” it’s more than fair to ask at any moment who is experiencing the suffering of existence – hurt, pain, health issues, aging and death. 

If realization is the profound discovery that there is no intrinsic or inherent self than what is it that we seem to be experiencing each day as we walk around purchasing things, desiring things, getting upset? What is this? This is called self-deception.

If you are not realized, then by default you are probably so deluded and hypnotized by either the grandeur or the pain of your own ego that you actually think that you’re real. At the deepest levels any pain that you experience is only showing you what still remains to be explored.

The revelation that there is no hidden mover or ghost in the machine called “yourself,” is immensely freeing. With regard to the “how to,” or the methodology to achieve this paramount of realizations you’re invited to attend in-person or live on-line every Wednesday from 6-8 pm EST. For more information contact Davitamoodley@gmail.com 

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Present Moment Love❤️ 

  
 

Perhaps our dreams are there to be broken, and our plans are there to crumble, and our tomorrows are there to dissolve into todays, and perhaps all of this is all a giant invitation to wake up from the dream of separation, to awaken from the mirage of control, and embrace whole-heartedly what is present. 

My life is a passing succession of events, just like yours. Only I have detached and see the passing show as a passing show….

Friends, appearances do not bind the mind, attachments bind the mind. Cut through your attachments…

You are not your name, where you are from your race, country, religion or gender…

You are not your thoughts or feelings…

Relax your attachments and your sorrows will become unmasked. Joy is all that will remain.

Cling to nothing. Stop fixating. Release your hopes, fears, expectations and worries. Relax into awareness without an object. 

Know the state of pure and total presence to be a very vast expanse, without center or border. All that remains when you let go is love – and that is the great secret. When this is realized you will burst into a beautiful spontaneous laughter❤️

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What is Karma? And the Significance of a Loving Heart❤

“Everything we call real is made of things that cannot be regarded as real.” – Niels Bohr, Quantum Physicist

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When the Buddha was asked where does the world come from?

He replied, “That the world and the inhabitants of the world come from movements of the mind (thinking) with various degrees of conscious intention.

 

This is significant for many reasons, not the least of which is that for the first time in the history of world religions the founder of a tradition is saying that the world does not come from an outer God, divinity, or deity. In essence, that we are responsible, both individually and collectively – for ourselves. That each man is responsible for his own salvation from suffering, and deliverance to happiness and peace.

 
This is not an unimportant issue – as a young man it troubled me greatly. It was tremendously disempowering to believe that the reality that I was experiencing was coming at me and being imposed on me by some supposedly malevolent being when what I was experiencing was so very painful. Did He really work in some mysterious way? Was it really the case that everything happened for a Divine reason that was hidden from me? Only later with enough faith I would finally discover the reason in heaven?

 

Frankly, with the pain in the world that I saw I could simply not respect or admire such a spiteful being who either deplored his own creation or wasn’t strong enough or unwilling to stop the mass of suffering. And for what, because fallible human beings doubted in the existence of such pathology? If there were such a being outside of my mind, how would I know anyway?

 

I remember Wittgenstein,

 

“that which we cannot know, we must consign to silence.” I remember Nietzsche, “Is man merely a mistake of God’s? Or God merely a mistake of man?”

 
The argument for intelligent design always seemed completely preposterous to me for the simple reason that in one way or another we have to take the lives of others in order to survive. This hardly seems like the hand of an intelligent benevolent Creator. If so smart and so powerful why not come up with a more peaceful plan? Like just breathing for example?

 
These were the long ago teenage musings of a thirteen year old philosopher in the making. This new view of course transmutes the role of organized religion and the priests, but that is a small price to pay for the empowerment of each person.

 
Movements of the mind with various degrees of conscious intention is the Buddhist definition of karma. It means the world of our experience, as well as all of the people – for each of us are created solely by how we think of them. This makes us responsible for our world but also highlights the nature of conditioned illusion-like or fabricated reality.

 
Given that our reality is fabricated, and we create our world with intention, what would the best intention be?

 

I think that is best answered by Rumi:

 

 

All doubt, despair and fear become insignificant when the intention of life becomes love.

 

 
In conclusion, because you fabricate your reality what you think about matters tremendously as you will always experience the result of your thoughts, speech and actions. The reality we experience is observer dependent, meaning that we always have the possibility of reframing what we see and experience. if you think, speak and act negatively then you will get that result. Who would consciously and with any degree of intention do that? It is only wise for you to think about love it that is what you wish to see and receive.❤

 
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All People Are Pure Potential🙏

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When you are finally right about people is when you understand this: that all people are pure potential.

 
That is not just a motivational statement. Anyone can truly change, there is no obstacle except your beliefs about them or their beliefs about themselves. It is our job to hold ourselves and others accountable to that, and not to our judgments.

 
Behaviors can be terrible, even toxic. People are not. No matter what they’ve done. No matter what you’ve done.

 
People are pure potential, and nothing they can ever do or say can change that. Nothing you have ever done or have ever said can change your potential either. By accepting someone’s potential for change does not mean that you approve of their past or present behavior.

 
You are free to stop suffering. You are free to be happy. You simply have to change your heart. You simply have to change your mind. In this moment you will define what happens next. Past performance is not indicative of future results. Lay down and surrender the unnecessary need to be right if you want to feel love. To accept others and to accept yourself means that you must resist sizing them up as better than, equal to or lesser than.

 

Accepting yourself and others equally means to accept the never-ending hope in our shared capacity for beautiful change.

 
You can free yourself and others of your version of how things were and begin to experience things as they are: Unlimited possibility. Never Give Up❤

 
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